Eye exam went well for husband. There was a slight change in his left eye, did not respond to light well, and the Dr noticed he has what appears to be the beginning of Macular Degeneration. On top of everything else, Macular Degeneration? Please. Spare me. Spare him. Of course they know of his condition, so, she said to make sure his vitamins had enough Lutein in them. When I got home, I checked and they do.
Husband's total left side is more affected, more advanced than the right, so, it's only fitting that the left eye is now being affected. Husband has been declining so much, that on the way home he kept asking me if he had "passed" his eye exam. Seemed "proud" of himself when I reassured him he had indeed "passed". Ugh.
I decided to take matters into my own hands yesterday. I sat husband down, told him that Dr A has sent in a request to revoke his drivers license and I was putting the truck up for sale. Period. End of discussion. It went rather well. I told him how much I loved him and was doing this not to be mean, but, to protect him and others on the road. Oh, he tried to convince me he could still drive, but I was having none of that. Told him I was in charge of this family and had everyone's best interest at heart.
I next called the local paper and, funny enough, they were running a special on advertising this week. So, I placed an ad for the truck which they will run for 6 days. I also had Kristen make "For Sale" signs and put in on the truck. Tyler wanted the truck, but, has decided not to make any major purchases since he & Susie are saving for a down payment on a house. That's fine, it'll get sold.
I feel good about the way I handled this situation. Yes, it may have seemed harsh, but, I had to get my point across to him.
Last night, as I was watching TV, he came out and gave me a kiss, then said, "Thank you", for what?, I asked. He said, "for taking care of me, being there for me, loving all of us the way you do and making me see what needs to be done." Can we all lift our glasses in a toast?
He has not been this "with it" for a few weeks now. To hear him say those words to me almost made me cry. I got through to him. He understood, he took it like a champ, (really had no choice) and the day ended well.
Amen. Thank you, my powerful and wonderful God.
--He said, "Thank you", for what?, I asked. He said, "for taking care of me, being there for me, loving all of us the way you do and making me see what needs to be done." Can we all lift our glasses in a toast?--
ReplyDeleteThis. is. beautiful. And absolutely. I raise my glass to you, sunneysue, for traveling this road with grace and immense amounts of courage and quite often even humor.
You did well.
Does your town have Craigslist? In my area, CL is just about the only way things sell and the main place where jobs are posted. But, I live in a big city, so that may not apply. But it is free, and we sell things the same day we post them.
Blessings,
Johanna